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Summary of Didn’t See That Coming 

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Life is a cycle and during our lives, we all experience pain, loss, and grief. The devastation has a habit of robbing you of everything you believe yourself to be, but you can choose to let it own you, or you can work your way through it, towards a future that although different, can still be positive. Rachel Hollis, New York Times bestselling author of “Girl, Wash Your Face”, has been through her fair share of loss and grief. In fact, three days after editing this very book, her marriage ended and everything changed. Somehow she got up and carried on. She wants you to do the same. Through kind words, practical advice, and plenty of motivation, “Didn’t See That Coming” is a book everyone needs to read.

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  • Who should read Didn’t See That Coming
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The reality of “losing” your identity

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Whenever you encounter a negative situation in life, be it a death, a relationship breakup, losing a job, or anything else which causes you to feel like your world has been turned upside down, it’s very easy to feel like you’ve lost sight of who you are.

Perhaps the most difficult part of enduring something in life which literally changes your view of the world is that you become someone different, someone new. You might not realize it at the time, but every situation we deal with in life changes us in some way. The problem is, you’re still trying to work through what has happened but you’re also trying to identify who you are in the here and now. It’s like your perception of the world has changed and the one thing that anchored you down, i.e. the comfort in knowing yourself, has gone. This causes what Rachel Hollis refers to as an “identity crisis”.
Difficult situations in life often change small parts of our personalities. This doesn’t mean you have lost your identity, it means you’re growing.
This can be because something has been taken away from you, something has been denied you, or you’ve decided that what you have isn’t something you want anymore. The truth is that no matter what has happened to you, you are still you. Sure, small parts of you may have changed because you’ve been through a difficult time, but at your core you’re still the person you’ve always been. Nobody can take your identity from you and the situation you’ve been through doesn’t define you.
Identity literally means being who or what you are. And you get to choose that. ~ Rachel Hollis
You are about so much more than what you’re dealing with or what you’ve been through. For example, perhaps you’ve been diagnosed with a life-changing illness; you’re more than a patient. The only person who is allowed to define who you are is you.

It’s important to understand that our identities do change a little over time as we learn and grow. Whilst those changes can be a little awkward or confusing at times, it’s important to see growth as something positive, whilst taking heart from the fact that who you see yourself as and your core values will always remain the same.
We change during our lifetimes, it’s part of evolution. But, that doesn’t mean your identity has been taken away. Simply be true to yourself.
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Own your suffering and focus on growth

When you’re in the middle of a heartbreaking event in life, your suffering can overwhelm you. You start to live in a fog, and it almost becomes your new normal, to the point where you can’t remember a time when you felt any different.
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It’s time to cut guilt out of your life

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Your perspective is never static

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The key differences between perspective and mindset when dealing with life’s changes

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Every loss has a financial hit attached to it — be money savvy

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Learning lessons from life’s experiences

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Focus on joy and finding your purpose

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