Continue reading with Headway app
Continue reading
Summary of He Comes Next
Short summary
"He Comes Next" is a helpful guide for women everywhere to pleasure their men thoroughly. This summary seeks to debunk the myths surrounding things that maximize the pleasure of sexual intercourse. Dr. Ian Kerner suggests a trusted methodology behind his brand-new philosophy of maximizing male pleasure. Kerner channels his well of knowledge into a manual for women who have trouble understanding their partner's minds.
Dr. Ian Kerner is a renowned and licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor. He specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy, and working with individuals on a range of relational issues that often lead to distress. Dr. Kerner is also the New York Times best-selling author of “She Comes First” (Harper Collins), which has translations in more than a dozen languages.
“Keeping the genitals well protected is an instinctual matter for every man. If a man has to cross a dark room filled with potential obstacles he might bump into, he'll instinctively guard his junk against any painful collisions.” ~ Dr. Ian Kerner
15 min
8 key points
14 insights
You’ll learn
- What're men's turns on
- The connection between heart and penis
- Male sexuality in detail
- The secrets of satisfaction
- About naughty foreplay
Table of content
- Summary of He Comes Next
- About the author
- What is He Comes Next about?
- Who should read He Comes Next
- Topics in He Comes Next
first key point
Sex isn't merely a physical act; it is also profoundly psychological
Listen the first key point
00:00
00:00
The male genitals are often the reference for the measure of manliness in regards to size and performance. Dr. Ian Kerner explains that the male genitalia is a large, protected area of the body because it sits at the confluence point for the emotional insecurities heaped upon it by society. This need for safety stems from a fear of vulnerability, a reluctance to be open. Thus, a man unconsciously protects his pelvic area because it is highly sensitive.
The male genitalia are the cause for a lot of insecurity today in men because of society's size standards.
In sex and sexual stimulation, the penis holds many “sweet spots,” but only one gets significant attention from men and their partners: the glans. It is the soft bulb at the tip of the penis and is heavily sensitive to stimulation. It is the area the man is quickest to get an orgasm from, wildly if he's been frequently masturbating. Further down is the shaft, which holds the engine of the penis as it houses three muscle bindings that draw in blood during arousal and hold it until he finishes; this area of the penis is of great concern to the man because it can vary in size and width.
Often, sex gets misconstrued as merely a physical act, but it is more psychological than physical. The aversion to letting women go beyond the penis to the scrotum or the forbidden spot — the anus, is based on his desire to maintain control. The pelvis offers so much vulnerability that he's unwilling to let go because society asks him to always be in control. But men have G-spots, too, yes. Where? It’s located about three inches inside the rectum. If he wants a fulfilling orgasm and trusts you, he'd let you touch him there.
Often, sex gets misconstrued as merely a physical act, but it is more psychological than physical. The aversion to letting women go beyond the penis to the scrotum or the forbidden spot — the anus, is based on his desire to maintain control. The pelvis offers so much vulnerability that he's unwilling to let go because society asks him to always be in control. But men have G-spots, too, yes. Where? It’s located about three inches inside the rectum. If he wants a fulfilling orgasm and trusts you, he'd let you touch him there.
Sex for men is more profound than just a physical act; it's more psychological than we think.
In the following chapters of this summary, we shall explore the many complexities of the male genitalia, how to please your man, and some of the reasons you might have difficulty pleasing him regardless of your efforts. We will also get a comprehensive look at the mental aspects of sex and just how to gain mastery of the art of sexual pleasure.
second key point
The implications of desire in a healthy sexual relationship do not get enough attention
Dr. Ian Kerner cites sexual responses occur in four stages: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. But one step is often omitted: desire. Desire is left out is because we think it is part of arousal, but this makes having sex seem like a mechanical activity devoid of any emotion, which is untrue. Men require an emotional connection in sex just as much as women. Desire doesn't begin in the pelvis; it starts in the mind and sustains sexual relationships to a large extent. Men won't just sleep with anyone, and there has to be, on some level, a measure of desire.
Full summary is waiting for you in the app
third key point
To reduce boredom during sexual intercourse, you can throw in some novel ideas to spice things up
fourth key point
There is a naughtier side to foreplay and intimacy that can bring about boundless pleasure
fifth key point
There is a tedious connection between the heart and the penis, although most people don't realize it
sixth key point
The physical approach to increasing the pleasure experience during sexual intercourse requires all hands to be on deck
seventh key point
Several techniques can maximize the pleasure of sexual intercourse
eighth key point
Conclusion
What is He Comes Next about?
Who should read He Comes Next
Topics in He Comes Next
Enjoy summarized nonfiction bestsellers
Grasp the book’s key ideas in less than 15 minutes
Get startedGet new knowledge easily
Let’s check how many titles you can finish in a month with Headway! Tell us how much time you’d like to spend on reading:
Join 30+ million learners around the world
60K5 reviews on App Store and Google Play
Everything you need to be motivate, to learn & to self improves is all here. I actually do appreciate the reminders because otherwise this wouldn’t work for me. Thank you
Headway is the answer! No longer accumulating books I never read. With Headway, I initially chose the areas important to me such as productivity, time management, etc., and each day I'm provided several book summaries from which I devote 20 minutes or more each day reading. All of this on my phone! My life has improved with Headway. Truly my most useful app.
An excellent concept, executed well. Headway can help you retain what you've read while introducing you to the essential core of new information. It's an easier way to stay inspired, and to be reminded of the mental tools you've learned
In today’s world, we rarely have time. Between our jobs, our families are social obligations, when do we have time to grow and develop ourselves? Headway is an excellent app that gives you that time it gives you those little snippets of information that you need to direct your focus in on your life. Headway gives you a chance to find out the meat of a book that you might want to purchase and read or listen to in-depth without wasting a lot of time trying to figure out is this book for me? I highly recommend the app.
The selections are on point and the summaries are excellent! I listen while I walk my pup 🐶 and have in turn, ordered a few selections! REALLY loving the app, it’s layout, daily selections and features!
I've gotten multiple books out of the library with the intent to read them, but always have a hard time finding the time. This app has helped me finally be able to get to them. Summarized, yes, and thank goodness too! Just short enough I can finish one on my way picking kids up from school/practice, or while I'm cooking dinner. I can't wait to listen to them over the summer when we visit the beach!
It amazed me! There is the possibility to highlight the most important points of each book and instantly translate unfamiliar vocabulary. With the ability to review the searched words. It's a great way to learn more about English as well. The price is great.
I’m enjoying what I’m learning on headway.each summary comes with quotes at the end which you can save to help you remember key points. You can listen or read, I’ve found that reading puts me to sleep before I can finish but the listening feature keeps me engaged and I can finish in a brief amount of time if not one session.
The app it’s so easy to use. I use it while driving or cooking and is great. I love the fact that the chapters are short, so you can finish them quickly. Very knowledgeable.
The best app for self development.It helps to keep pace with your reading and also suggests the kind of reading material you might like.It is fun as you can switch from reading to listening and vice-versa as per your convenience .Just get started and partake of the treasure of knowledge at your fingertips .I feel lucky to have spotted the app.It has helped me become self-disciplined and much better informed.The audio track is excellent.
Exactly what I need! I always have booklist to read, but can't committed enough to finish/start bc of too much pages. Headway is really helpful and concise with their summary. What I love the most is that the essence of the book is well crafted, so I don't only read the key points, but also there's the story and how personality of the author still well shown through the summary. Well done!
This is outstanding best app ever and honestly whoever came up with is my app is an absolute genius kudos my gratitude definitely goes out and I’m only on my first week free trial and I’m certainly going to purchase this app annually. Now that I have it, I can’t even imagine living without it.